What not to say to someone with a Brain Injury

You seem fine

Many brain injury symptoms are invisible.  Poor memory or concentration, getting tired, poor sleep and depression are not as obvious as a broken leg.  Whilst someone may look normal or no different to how they were before their brain injury, look out for the signs of memory problems which can be more difficult to cope with than other obvious disability.  

Let me do that

Independence and control are often lost after a brain injury.  Whilst it may be easier and less frustrating to you to do things for a loved one, encouraging them to do things for themselves builds self-esteem, confidence and may also help the brain recover.

Think positively

Repeated negative thoughts are common after brain injury and often related to depression, so treating the depression may help break negative thinking however, it can also help to find something to do that your loved one enjoys to distract the negative thinking.

Lucky to be alive

This sounds like positive thinking however, a person with a brain injury is far more likely to have suicidal thoughts.  They may not feel lucky to be alive, so talk instead about how strong or persistent they are for coping.

Not trying enough

Apathy, a lack of interest or motivation is common after brain injury.  It can prevent someone rehabilitating, so it is important to recognise and treat it.  Medication and goal setting goals can help reduce apathy.  Depression, fatigue, chronic pain and some medication can have similar effects to apathy, so diagnosing the true cause is important to getting the proper treatment.

So moody

Irritability is a common symptom of brain injury and may be directly caused by the injury or be a side effect of depression, poor sleep or fatigue. It can be hard for everyone to live with however, medication or therapy focussing on coping skills can help.

How often do I have to say?

It is very frustrating to have to repeat yourself.  However point out the solution not the problem, such as making the job easier or setting up a routine.  A message board or diary alerts may help.

You know how much I do?

Your loved one probably does know and feels guilty about it or they may never understand because of their lack of awareness or poor memory from the brain injury.  Share your feelings with a friend or counsellor rather than burden your loved one,

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If you or a loved one has suffered a brain injury caused by someone else and want to know how we can help, please please contact Andy Shaw or call us on 0800 073 0988.

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